Have you ever tried to talk to someone about how you feel, but felt guilty for making your point?
With good intentions, we say our piece, and it seems to go wrong. What’s that about?
There are a number of blocks to communication, and it’s not always what we say or how we say it.
Sometimes, if the person you’re talking to isn’t really listening, you’ll find they miss the point or get the wrong message. That’s why communication is a two way street. Both parties have to be ready to listen, not just speak.
It’s one of the reasons that relationships fall apart. Either communication is non-existent or one (or both) of the parties is on transmit, instead of receive.
With this in mind, we can set the intention to communicate effectively through mindfulness practice. If we aim for a peaceful outcome, we will never go to war. It can also provide inspiration for the other party to behave the same way.
Mindful communication includes:
- Listening with the intent to understand
- Paying full attention to the person speaking
- Giving your full awareness to what you’re saying, before you say it.
One of the ways you can give your full attention is by taking a break from your mobile ‘phone. Make sure there are no distractions (or they’re as limited as possible). Create a space where healthy communication feels possible.
Here is a mantra you can repeat whilst meditating:
* I choose to communicate helpfully
* I listen as equally as I speak
* My communication is focused on a peaceful outcome
Remember, it’s important that both parties are interested in effective communiation. If you’re trying to tell someone how you feel and they’re not interested, it may be time to create some positive space between you, to give you time to contemplate your next, positive steps.
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Copyright Delphi Ellis